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How the Tongue leads to a dysfunctional Marriage – the devil’s invisible tactics on women

It is unheard of for anyone to invest in a marriage only to look forward to its downfall. Couples always expect the first days glam to last forever. Unfortunately, partners usually do not comprehend when the bright future of the marriage changes to dysfunctional marriage. Most of the time, they innocently blame each other for the mishap.

A marriage never moves from good to bad and eventually worse in a day. As the partners gradually pull apart within the same home, they ironically expect a better tomorrow but get disappointed. Knowing what happened when they already spilled the beans leads to regrets. Underneath the smiles lies the unseen cracking union.

What happens behind the scenes?

Yeah! The breakup takes place behind the scenes because they hardly notice the little input towards the division.

They want the marriage but unknowingly lead it to the pit.

To avoid other failed marriages acting as your role models, you need to get to the inner core of what is likely to have led to their breakups. These ten points will keep you alert and help you make wise decisions concerning your relationship.

10 dysfunctional marriage catalysts chronologically explained

  1. Negatively discussing your husband.
  2. Confronting your husband based on suspicion.
  3. Mounting a grudge between you and your husband.
  4. Denying your husband his conjugal rights.
  5. Your husband begins to look around for a place to relieve himself. 
  6. He develops divided attention between you and his new catch.
  7. You catch him cheating beyond a reasonable doubt, pack and leave.
  8. The first few years of divorce or separation look promising.
  9. Your situation converts you to a newscaster against marriage.
  10. Permanent regrets.

Negatively discussing your husband

Some cases are worth the involvement of a third party whereas other cases aren’t. Speaking out has built marriages and destroyed marriages too. Before you mention your spouse, evaluate its necessity and the listener. She will either help you build your marriage or assist you to destroy it.

Women have somehow proved to be consultants by nature. In the process of consultation, comparison creeps in and converts the well-intended discussion to gossip.

You become the first to infringe on your privacy.

A spouse is more like private property. What you say or do as a couple is incomparable to what you do when you engage a business partner, sibling, or friend. Your intimacy begins from your thoughts to your words and actions. Before you make any move, you have to carefully consider its pros and cons.

Looking at what exactly sent you to your friend, it was not even disagreement in the first place, but a mere friendly chat. You walk out of that discussion with an altered mind that makes you approach your spouse with an unusual attitude.

Whether he asks you or not, the tension affects your relationship.

Confronting your husband based on suspicion

You opened the pandora box. Your friend planted some imaginary good qualities of a husband which your husband seems to be lacking. You will effortlessly try to convert your husband to what he is not.

In your friend’s opinion, if her husband cooks, yours should cook too. Since her husband reports home early after work, she expects your husband to do the same. She likes the fact that her husband is an introvert and makes you believe that all men have to be antisocial for marriage to work.

Socializing does not necessarily breed the dreaded habits that break up marriages! If anything, we learn more by engaging with the right people. Good business ideas come from the most unexpected discussions!

After observing your husband for a while, you are likely to confront him with baseless suspicions. You’re likely to become snoopy over his phone discussions and even check his phone for suspicious messages. Coincidentally, you might come across a message that might cut your relationship in the middle.

Your husband will either decide to ignore your allegations, amicably explain himself, or confront you. If he chooses to ignore or confront you, the situation worsens. A dysfunctional marriage begins to unfold although you may not see it.

Mounting a grudge between you and your husband

Since you first discussed your husband with your friend, something changed. It has now spilled from you to your husband. If you go ahead and hold a grudge, you ruin the relationship more. He is also likely to keep you at bay! The essence of living as a couple begins to lose meaning.

Lack of communication finds its way into your marriage. Meanwhile, you keep updating your friend on the happenings in your home. She also keeps adding salt to the injury. You have probably incorporated more toxic friends. Matters are getting worse. The two of you are not in talking terms.

One of you then decides to let go. The relationship gets back to normal for a while. This is where you get cheated yet in the real sense, the devil has carefully knitted himself at the hem of your marriage. The devil has to test the waters with the first step. Whatever happens at this point leads to the next. He is now watching from within.  He patiently waits for recurrent grudges.

The moment you discover something unusual in your husband, you get angry at him again. Your mind is not under your control. Somewhere in your conscience, you decide to do something that appears more vicious.

Denying your husband his conjugal rights

You’re getting to the next level. Denying your husband his conjugal rights is an advanced way of holding a grudge. You have graduated from bad to worse. The mountain that you began to build from a simple friendly discussion is growing. You’re getting to the core of a dysfunctional marriage.

It may look simple in the beginning but even with the best of husbands, a time comes when hell breaks loose. He has tried his level best to ensure your relationship gets better but you are adamant. You have transferred your disagreements from the living room to the bedroom.

Depending on your husband’s personality, he may not want to appear unreasonable. He perseveres in this situation for a while. Meanwhile, you deny him his conjugal rights on an on-off basis depending on the previous factors that led to the rift between the two of you.

It may look normal but the more you deny him his conjugal rights for no apparent reason, the more he walks away yet still within. You begin to lengthen the dry spells. When nature calls, he gets tempted to find a helping hand!

A book in your hands can, however, help you avoid the statistics of a dysfunctional marriage. Find it here.

Your husband begins to look around for a place to relieve himself

We meet so many people in our day to day activities. Some of them make sexual advances, but we decline based on our allegiance to our spouses. We also want to maintain our dignity.

Irrespective of the fact that sex is sacred and meant for couples, we cannot run away from the reality on the ground. Illicit sex takes place much more than we would imagine. The moment your husband dips himself into this hotbed of infiltration, he changes for worse.

Your disagreements graduate from external to internal. It has now moved from your bedroom to another place, with someone who isn’t you. He has defiled the Lord’s temple and disregarded his vows. At this point, it is bigger than it looks.

For as long as you do not know about his extramarital affair, life continues as usual. At this point, he has no intention of divorcing you. He just wants to feel adequately supplied with his needs. There is a possibility that he doesn’t even love the other woman! Maybe he feels sorry within! Without a doubt, he now thinks of someone else besides you. The vows he took are no longer in the picture.

He develops divided attention between you and his new catch

Your husband begins to share his finances with her too. Depending on the type of person she is, she is likely to demand exorbitant amounts. This will eat into your home treasury. Maybe you have realized your bedroom life is crippled but you have no evidence, so there is still no cause for alarm!

Initially, you denied him his conjugal rights. He is now the one denying you your rights not because he has a grudge, but because someone else has stolen his attention. Remember, the devil came to steal, destroy, and kill. It no longer matters whether he gets intimate with you or not.

Your chain of destructive friends may have grown. That suspicion that they initially instilled in you has become a reality. When you reach out to them, they make matters worse. Some of them could be close relatives!

Your husband gets so drowned in this affair to the extent that he doesn’t see the repercussions. He’s not right either; both of you are wrong. The other woman seems to be supplementing what he doesn’t get at home! Irrespective of the fact that he felt guilty of the relationship when it began, that guilt fades away. He even forgets that he owes his responsibility to you, and becomes a bit careless.

You catch him cheating beyond a reasonable doubt, pack and leave

The slowly drifting marriage becomes a dysfunctional marriage. You are unable to comprehend the fact that your discussion with an undeserving friend gave birth to your breakup. Your bitterness cannot even allow room for reconciliation. The devil sends you back to the same people and makes sure they continue to misadvise you.

Your husband’s attempt to make up with you bears no fruit. You are fully decided. Without a second thought, you pack and leave. You keep blaming your husband for the painful new phase of your life. Your little ones have to put up with the fact that their father’s face is no longer in the vicinity.

The initial source of anger does not cross your mind. Separately, you continue to live your lives while the pain kills each of you. He regrets his immersion in the other relationship, but you don’t seem to take any blame! According to you, you’re not the source of the problem.

Your relatives and friends support you. A mother’s pain consumes your mother and she develops hatred towards your husband. Everyone around this whole saga is stressed. They feel your husband has wasted you, yet they don’t understand his side of the story.

Here comes the other way of dealing with adultery.

The first few years of divorce or separation look promising

After a while, you get used to living as a single mother. When you hear your husband moved on, it somehow validates his cheating on you. He waited for your return in vain. He is the bad guy in the eyes of your circles.

Marriage comes with responsibility and a need for consultation to partake in some activities. Single life on the other hand is a one-man show. Nobody else matters in your decisions.

Soon, some married man tries his luck on you. He is rich, affords to take responsibility for your children’s needs. He provides beyond your husband’s ability. You become comfortable and get deceived he loves you more than he loves his wife and family. Once again, you begin to glow. The pain that the separation inflicted diminishes.

Meanwhile, your husband already has a child with his newfound wife. You have no intention of getting children with your new catch. Life is just good and your friends can see it. They use you as a practical example to aid the devil in destroying other marriages. In their words “she quit her marriage, and she’s doing much better.” Other people get duped to take your route.

The chain of failed marriages grows from a simple misplaced discussion with one friend. This article helps you understand how suspicion can convert yours to a dysfunctional marriage.

Your situation converts you to a newscaster against marriage

When you have moved from grass to grace, you are likely to think it is God’s favor. The favor of the Lord begins on good grounds. We cannot refer to anything that began on mischievous grounds as the Lord’s favor. Never will the Lord link you up with a married man. He cannot go against His commandment that says “do not commit adultery.”

The evil one deceives you with temporary joy so that he gets an opportunity to lead you to the worst state. You are likely to mingle with like-minded ladies. You unknowingly wrecked your marriage and you’re now converting someone else’s marriage to a dysfunctional marriage! It was painful when you learned that your husband had an affair to the extent it sent you out of your home.

Are you anticipating that your boyfriend’s wife will leave her house because of you? Your friend’s wife may not do what you did. Even if she discovers your affair with her husband, she may choose to fight from within. A secret you may not want to mention; every wife dreads a dysfunctional marriage. 

Sooner or later, the man begins to pull away. He has weighed options and discovered your presence disrupts his family’s peace. You have to get moving once again but to which direction?

Permanent regrets

Looking back at your husband, he has no space for you. He tried to make a comeback, but you wouldn’t listen to him. Several years have elapsed. Your children are older. You are aging too.

Your husband has another family. His new wife tries to make him as happy as possible to keep you away from them. She believes she’s all right and tries her best to avoid a dysfunctional marriage. 

Your children know their biological father. They call your ex-boyfriend uncle. Irrespective of the fact that other men are trying to woo you, you find it difficult to give in. Several questions run in your mind.

What will you tell your teenagers?

Who is this new man?

What will they feel about your decision?

It is either you make a stern decision to live a single life with your teens, or secretly engage in an affair without their knowledge. Cat and mouse games are not easy to play.

Through friends and family, you keep eavesdropping to keep yourself informed of the happenings in your husband’s life. Most likely, you’re regretting but want to appear unperturbed.

Your friends have also gone through a myriad of challenges and have each withdrawn. They concentrate more on their personal lives. You are in a self-renewal world. Probably, you’re trying to deepen your relationship with God for consolation.


Marriage works if only we can implement some level of maturity. Your elder’s dysfunctional marriage needs not to be your point of reference. What you say in your first year of marriage can distribute the rot to your entire life and to other families too. You can imagine how many more people unknowingly wreck their marriages! Watch out! The tongue is too costly.

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6 Tips That Will Give You Financial Freedom at the right pace

Nothing can be more liberating than working in financial freedom. Gaining this freedom is however not easy. It calls for discipline and lots of diligence. God intends that we manage our resources. You can easily do this by not letting your money control you.

Money issues can be a source of stress and anxiety. It has broken many marriages and deterred so many people from pursuing their dreams.

Whether you have a small salary or a six-figure salary, if you don’t learn financial discipline, you may not gain the much-desired freedom. To obtain financial freedom, you have to keep these in mind:


Everything you own is from God, and you are just a steward

It is easy to think that you earned everything that you have. The Bible says that everything belongs to Him. He has simply given us the privilege to own these gifts.

It is God who gives us the power to make wealth. The talents, the gifts, and Providence all come from Him. Without Him, we can never achieve anything.

So how do you use what He has graciously given you?

It is possible to waste when you are living in abundance. Being wasteful is not good stewardship. The Bible in John 6:12 shows Jesus instructing His disciples to gather everything so that nothing gets wasted. It clearly explains to us the need for making the most of what God has given to us freely.

In Matthew 25:14-30, God puts us to test to see if we can handle great things. He is not going to provide you with riches and abundance if He is not sure that you can take care of it.  The Bible clearly shows us to be better stewards to the little we receive. If we are faithful with the little the master gives us, He will gladly add us more.


Money should not rule you

We need money to survive. Without it, life can be difficult. The Bible in 1st Timothy says that the love of money is the root of all evil. It is easier to think that we can achieve everything if we have money. This kind of thinking is wrong because it draws us away from God.

Don’t become a victim of the financial freedom rush. Learn something from my story here.

If we put wealth first before God and people, we end up losing our mandate on earth. We were created to worship God. Wealth should not be a hindrance to that great purpose. In Matthew 19:24, Jesus teaches His disciples how putting money above everything can prevent us from seeing the Kingdom of God.

The Bible also warns us in 1st Timothy 6:17-18 against putting our wealth above God and people because it grieves God. Our wealth should be a blessing to the less fortunate in society. We should use it for the glory of God and enhance His work.

Having a huge salary does not guarantee financial freedom. You can live a more fulfilling life if you know how to manage your finances well. The following principles will save you from living from hand to mouth:


Work hard for your money

If you don’t work, you won’t eat. Working gives us a sense of purpose. God will not drop money from heaven. He simply blesses our efforts. In Deuteronomy 28:8, the Lord promises that He will bless the work of our hands.


It clearly shows us that we need to put in effort in every little thing God gives us. Always strive for excellence in everything you do.


Spend wisely

What is the point of having money if you cannot spend it? God has not called us to be miserable. Spending, however, does not necessarily mean you waste it on things you don’t need. When spending, keep the following points in mind:

Know what you want

Having a clear perspective of your monthly expenses will help you budget for your money wisely. Categorizing your expenses into wants, needs or likes is prudent. This way you will learn to prioritize. You, however, need to be strict to follow this budget.

Set boundaries

You need to assign each dollar to a destination. It will help you track your expenditure. You will also avoid spending money on things that were not in your budget.


It is important to set some money aside for unforeseen events. Life is unpredictable and having some savings will cushion you from life punches and save you from agony during hard times. If you are diligent, God will increase you as He promises in Deuteronomy 28:8.



Take it as a way of paying yourself. Invest in profitable ventures that will bring in significant returns. By doing this, you allow your money to work for you. Invest in real estate, mutual funds and allow your investments to grow before you can withdraw from them.


Avoid debts

There is nothing as good debt. The truth is that some debts are better than others, but that does not mean that debts are good. If you have debts, purpose to clear them. Living a debt-free life gives you the flexibility of giving generously and living in abundance.

Break those habits that make you borrow. Proverbs 15:16 urges us to accept the little that we have than desire great wealth that will only bring turmoil. The Bible also promises us that our good Lord knows what we need and He shall gladly provide for us.


Learn to minimize and be content

Be happy with what you have. Learn to do away with what you don’t need. You will be truly happy only if you have a relationship with God. Material wealth does not give satisfaction. If you are not content, you are likely to covet other people’s things and be greedy.

Philippians 4:11-12 teaches us to be happy with whatever little that we have. If we practice this principle, we won’t spend much on unnecessary things.


Live generously

Be a blessing to others. Your life will be richer if you help people around you. Mark 10:29-30 shows us that whatever we give, we shall receive a double portion. Giving does not take away from us, it increases us.

Endeavor to tithe so that the Lord will honor His promise in Malachi 3:10 that if we bring food to His storehouse, He shall never deny us anything that we ask Him.

It is easy to walk in financial freedom if God is part of your journey. Work hard, spend wisely, invest, avoid debts, be content and live generously. You only have to be disciplined and diligent in whatever you have chosen.

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Coronavirus – the world’s worst nightmare gets out of hand but there is still hope.

A recap of the drastic twist coronavirus has brought to humanity

We are not all infected by coronavirus but we are all affected. Living with restrictions that we are not so used to, is a challenge we will have to contend with for quite some time.

Manufacturers of hand sanitizers must be making unexpected profits as we are in a rush to secure the lives of our loved ones.

We are living in the days when even non-news fanatics get glued to the televisions to keep themselves updated with the scary turnouts. The rate at which the virus is spreading is mind-boggling.

It has come to a point where with or without coronavirus, self-quarantine is mandatory. From the time the first case was detected, things have been moving from bad to worse.

Supermarkets are packed with rush-shoppers trying to secure enough necessities. It suggests we are likely to experience a lockdown.

Some countries have already restricted their residents, not only from traveling beyond the borders but from movement within their countries.

One message we hear from the authorities every day is – do not panic.

What are we doing as we wait for the unknown outcome?

Every man for himself and God for us all as stated by Geoffrey Chaucer is a phrase, we may each need to keenly revisit during this time of the coronavirus epidemic. Every individual must do something to curb the virus.

Maybe you are already working on it! Bring it on, I do not mind puffing my knowledge base with some more, as I also share my explicit vision with you. You will find it right ahead.


Understanding coronavirus

I believe the message I got came from God after a long plea for His intervention. Within the next few seconds, I struggled to come to terms with what I had read because it startled me. I developed an interest to research further and collected quite some information that is good for you too.

Coronavirus is beyond human understanding.

That’s the message!

Straight away, you can tell where I want to take you to!

Jeremiah 45 was my cup of coffee early morning today, short, and precise with only five verses. I could tell that God gave us that message without blinking an eye. It is worth quoting the heavyweight verses for ease of internalization of the message. The vision I share ahead also relates to it.

Jeremiah 45: 4-5; “But I the LORD, I’m tearing down what I have built and pulling up what I have planted. I will do this to the entire earth. Are you looking for special treatment for yourself? Don’t do it. I am bringing disaster on the whole human race, but you will at least escape with your life where you go. I the LORD have spoken.”

It is worth noting the significance of the three characters mentioned in the whole chapter. They were Jehoiakim who was the king of Judah at the time. He was the son of Josiah who was the previous king and Baruch was prophet Jeremiah’s secretary.

Understanding these three characters will help you pick relevant points from the coronavirus prediction and the interpretation of my vision ahead.

But what did God want us to derive from the message?

Without much ado, let’s get to understand each character more profoundly.


The chronicles of King Jehoiakim’s reign

God spoke these stern words during king Jehoiakim’s reign. It goes without say, that a lot was flimsy during his leadership. He only ruled for eleven years but messed a lot even though he began to rule as an adult at the age of twenty-five years.

His leadership was lukewarm. He, therefore, bent God’s rules in favor of the world a lot of times. You can read more about him in 2 Kings 23: 35-37 & 24: 1-7.


King Josiah’s peaceful leadership

The mention of Josiah may look insignificant in this chapter but I will tell you why it makes sense.

Josiah was Jehoiakim’s father and he ruled pretty well for 31 years. The fact that he began to rule at the age of eight years and did handsomely well disqualifies Jehoiakim’s ugly rule irrespective of his age.

We needed to know that Jehoiakim was the son of Josiah so that we can compare the rule of two members of the same ancestry.  Worth to note is that Josiah took the example of his ancestor King David. Josiah’s father Amon and grandfather Manasseh also disappointed the Lord during their tenures. 

It’s worth mentioning that the first time I heard about coronavirus, I flipped my Bible and landed on King Josiah’s rule and specifically when he was destroying the places of pagan worship (2 Kings 23: 1-20).

That was a direct message that we need to bring out the Josiah in us if we expect coronavirus to come to an end.

Concerning Josiah’s story, I will leave you with this order to help you derive some helpful tips that can guide your conscience. Take note of the order, the first being the oldest and remember they are from the same lineage.

  • Manasseh – Disappointed God
  • Amon – Disappointed God
  • Josiah – Ruled according to the will of God
  • Jehoiakim – Disappointed God


The light from the little heard Baruch – Prophet Jeremiah’s secretary

My conscience tells me that coronavirus has come at the right time. Together with what Baruch tells you, pick up some Lenten practices from here and apply them if you haven’t yet. It’s never too late.

God promised to save Baruch as indicated in Jeremiah 45 but Baruch did not stop there. He wrote a short book that only has five chapters and there is a lot to learn from it.

One significant message I got from the book of Baruch is that when it was read, everyone cried, fasted and prayed to the Lord. You have heard this a lot, but you will get it well pronounced from the book of Baruch. It is the book of the coronavirus season.

Looking at the Bible content mentioned herein with the coronavirus fears, we are in a situation similar to the situation in Judah at the time. The book of Baruch is a good prayer guide that resonates with the current situation.

It has a lot of information that puts you in the required prayer mood for the season.

Remember we are in the Lenten season where each of us is expecting to cross over to our individual Canaan’s before, during the Holy Week or thereafter.


Coronavirus prophesy

It is hard to believe prophesies from fellow human beings yet it is sad to imagine that you dismissed a prophesy and it caught up with you unprepared. Anyway, people did not believe Jesus too.  

Sylvia Browne was often dismissed yet her prophesy in the year 2008 has turned out to be the coronavirus we are trying to eradicate. She spoke about it in her book “End of Days.” It is not too late for you to grab a copy through this link.

Maybe it will allow you to leave this coronavirus desert a changed person. No matter how good you are, you cannot miss something to top up your goodness or make amendments.


And this was my vision

There was plenty of water, more like a big river or an ocean in one of the areas hit by coronavirus. I stood on one side of the huge volume of water and I could see a few people on the other side.

Cars willingly drove into the water and got submerged. I felt like that water was so deep. There is not a single car that attempted to swerve to escape the tragedy.

All over sudden, I found myself on the other side together with the few people who were there. We could hear people screaming in the water, definitely in those cars, but we could not help.

The cars landed with the bonnet facing down and the car boot facing up and remained in that position. I could see seven number plates of the cars lined up in two rows.

My friend Regina and I had a short discussion and settled on a particular person whom we thought could help save them. I don’t remember if we appointed anyone to contact him but I know we waited for him in vain.

On our left was the church so I decided to go and attend mass. The church was full. I rushed back to the scene after mass and realized there were no more screams. Nobody had come to rescue them and probably the worst had happened.

I walked away after a while, leaving my friend Regina and the others on site.


Interpretation of the vision

Seven is a symbolic number that denotes completion in the Bible. God has had enough ridicule from His children and the decision He has made is final. You can refer to Jeremiah 45 which I already mentioned above to understand that finality. 

As people were honoring the Lord at mass, others were screaming helplessly in the water. It means there is still room to make a choice of which direction we want to go. We also need to remember that it is only God whose power is supreme. 

The use of cars indicates human power. The bonnet facing down, and the car boot facing up means the human head facing down, and the feet facing up. Coupled with the eventual silence of the victims, it suggests a permanent end to an era since we cannot walk or operate with our heads touching the ground. 

The fact that we waited for someone who was thought to have the machinery, to come and save the victims, and he did not come suggests the coronavirus is beyond human ability. We need to take it to the Lord.



Coronavirus may turn around the world at large but that is not what matters. Our position matters more. We should focus more on what the calamity teaches us.

Baruch went ahead to plead on behalf of Judah yet he was promised salvation. He felt the need to experience God’s goodness with everyone else. Don’t sit back even if your hood is still safe. The affected may not be in a position to pray for themselves, they need you.

If we embrace God, He works in three faces. Repentance, deliverance and then restoration in that order. Baruch brings it out so clearly in his book. His writings are very enriching prayers. Don’t just read the book, pray like Baruch.

God does not expect anyone to permanently play the secondary role of relying on others for guidance. He wants growth and therefore requires all His children to lead like Josiah.

Please care to help a friend bury coronavirus and get a soothing sleep by sharing this post.

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Locusts invasion, the truth, and how to give the epidemic a permanent shot

You never know it happens until it happens to you. News is all about locusts. The epidemic has struck a number of countries. We don’t know if we are next. Looking at the swarms from our television screens, we can’t figure out the damage as it has not yet affected us.

With little knowledge about the locusts, we make fun of the images our fellow kinsmen post on social media. We still cannot tell that the damage the epidemic has caused to their crops directly translates to the unpredictable near future whose outcome we have to share. After all, it is our first time to see them.

We don’t have farms. Our offices are the farms we go to and harvest through our salaries. Somehow, we feel we are still untouched until they get closer.

Locusts in my neighborhood

Days have passed and I can no longer lay on the couch and laugh at the fun that seems to be going around the internet.

The sky looks dotted and funny thing, the dots are moving. As the reality that the dots must be locusts sinks in, my son shouts, “that grasshopper looks weird!”

A section of the settled locusts

Oh no!

The locusts have caught up with us. I have no crops in my compound. Looks like it just fell on the grass from above. A keener look unearths some more and I quickly burn them only to realize my neighbors are in the same business of getting rid of the locusts.

It’s a physical fight against an epidemic, I sigh!

What if they keep multiplying and overwhelm us?

As I try to figure out what to expect after the locusts leave, I remember locust’s invasion is widely spoken about in the Bible.

The damage that locusts cause

It’s my first time seeing locusts but I have heard of their pattern of destruction. At least I know they consume all the crops and leave. In my interest to get to understand them better, I grab my Bible and confirm my fears as this verse states.

Joel 2: 3; Like fire, they eat up the plants. In front of them, the land is like the Garden of Eden, but behind them, it is a barren desert. Nothing escapes them.

Once they settle in our farms, they leave no stone unturned. This is worrying. If they stay on for the longest unexpected time, hunger will definitely strike. When there is no food to buy, the salaries earned mean nothing because we cannot eat the money.

The little available food will obviously be damn expensive. It is a plague that will bite everyone so hard.

But why are these uninvited visitors around in the first place and until when?

The Lord’s stake on locusts

Still, in the same book of Joel, we are reminded that the Lord can speak through such an epidemic as is in this scripture.

Joel 2:1-2; Blow the trumpet; sound the alarm on Zion, God’s sacred hill. Tremble, people of Judah! The day of the LORD is coming soon. It will be a dark and gloomy day, a black and cloudy day. The great army of locust’s advances like darkness spreading over the mountains. There has never been anything like it, and there never will be again.

Zion is to watch from afar as Judah gets consumed into the misery they could as well have rejected. (Also see Psalms 91: 7-13).

Christ reigns in Zion. To understand the history of Zion, find more details here

The love God had for Zion is immense. Remember God’s favors only ensue where He is loved.

The above Bible excerpt suggests that there will never be such an epidemic again in that particular place. It is therefore either the finale of a famous territory or the new beginning as they turn back to the Lord.

Something significant must happen.

Solutions to the plague of locusts

It is important to realize that God has used a territory or a large group of people to demonstrate the locust’s invasion. In the real sense, He isn’t speaking to a nation because a nation is not a living human person. God is addressing the people in the territory.

Considering that God deals with each person individually, He isn’t addressing us in a group but independently speaking to each one of us.

The scare of the locusts impulsively rushes us to do anything within our means to get rid of them. Unfortunately, we destroy the product in the short term but leave the source untouched.

For as long as the manufacturing plant still remains firm, it may not be long before the locusts invade again. Or better still, they can stay on and only leave once they are confident, they have accomplished their mission.

These are visible locusts but remember invisible locusts can gradually consume us without our knowledge. The spirits that lead us to disobey the Lord are unseen but very dangerous. They are the locusts that eventually prompt the Lord to release the real locusts.

There are three long-term solutions that can help us get rid of the locusts.

  1. Identify the entry points of the locusts.
  2. Sweep the Temple of the Lord clean.
  3. Refurbish the Temple of the Lord.

Identify the entry points of the locusts

God does not destroy, He builds. Anything that comes to destroy is not for the Lord but for the evil person. In order for God to let loose the locusts, something is not wrong with the territory but with the people of that place.

When God says He will do something, He does it.

Deuteronomy 28: 15-68 has listed the consequences of disobedience that anyone wouldn’t like to experience. It is a scripture that I like reading often to keep me on toes and I believe it is one that everyone needs to bookmark.

We need to evaluate ourselves, list down all the things we have done that have defiled the Temple of the Lord and find ways of reaching out to Him for renewal. The Temple is our own body that houses the mind and soul.

Sweep the Temple of the Lord clean

The soul, mind, and body, work in unison to make up the person we become. When the soul gets triggered, the mind and body automatically receive the current. Whatever happens thereafter depends a lot on which side of the coin we belong to.

To ensure that we stand with the Lord and avoid future controversies, we have to clean the soul, mind, and body and never look back at the remnants. Catherine Parks elaborates on the way to repent as David repented in Psalms 51 and God forgave him. It is worth your time. Find the details here.

The Lord is light and cannot dwell in the darkness. Now that the locusts have left, invite the Holy Spirit and ask Him to occupy you without leaving any vacancy.

God speaks for life and when He told us we can move mountains He was stressing the point that there must be life in us to be able to move those mountains. We can only house that life in the form of the Holy Spirit, who is the only helper Jesus left us when He gave up His life to save ours.

To accommodate the Holy Spirit means to spiritually leave the world and live in the spirit in terms of character.

Once you have dealt with the locusts in the Lord’s Temple, it becomes easier to manage the live locusts because you have surrendered yourself to the Lord. He is your Managing Director and must be involved in every detail of the activities in the Temple. You then begin to pray in purity.

The essence of praying in purity

You cannot remove the speck in your neighbor’s eye before you remove the log in your eye. The log will not allow you to reach that speck or even see it. You will spend time making fun of the locusts rather than settling down for the best way to keep them off.

When you are pure, you have power. Ezra pleaded to the Lord and confessed the sins of the people on their behalf. When he went back to speak to them, they were in agreement with him.  

In purity, you have the power to win God’s heart for your spouse, children, siblings, parents, neighbors, community, country and the whole world. You may not see it but your prayers can make one of the prominent leaders make a decision that impacts positively in the whole world! Or better still, convert that hardened heart next to you.

How to pray

Focusing on the swarm of locusts that already looks unmanageable, you might be tempted to keep asking God to get rid of them.

For who is He getting rid of them?

Is it for obedient or disobedient children?

Have they allowed Him access to His Temple or they have locked Him out?

As you ask God to finish the locusts, remember to ask Him to touch the hardened hearts of His children. When you are surrounded by people who understand how God works and what He expects of them, it melts the heaps you must pass through to reach God.

Never forget that prayer is a continuous process.


  • If there is a fire burning in you, you cannot put off your neighbor’s fire. You need water to put off that fire.
  • To manage locusts within the shortest time, start with yourself. Empty yourself of the invisible locusts, clean and invite the Holy Spirit.
  • With such power, attack the locusts in your surroundings, and don’t forget to ask God to soften the hardened hearts.

Please care to share this long-term solution to the invasion of locusts with your friends.

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Three important Lenten season choices you can make – 40-day fasting in the Catholic church

The Lenten season is one of the most significant periods in the Catholic church. You practically walk Jesus through His forty days fasting after which He gained the power to trample on the devil. Satan had no other option but to flee from Him.

Jesus was not in a temple, chapel or with His disciples. He was all alone in the quietness of the desert. God tested Jesus by exposing Him to the temptations of Satan but He never gave in.

Looking at it critically, Jesus received the baton of fasting for forty days from Moses. That symbolized continuity of the Ten Commandments that Moses received after his forty days fasting. Jesus, on the other hand, qualified to take the position of the savior of the world after His 40-day fasting.

Christ similarly passes on the baton to you. The Lenten season is a time that you entice God to reveal Himself more and take you to the next place He has destined for you. He did it for Moses and Jesus. He can also do it for you.

What have you lined up for your lent period?

Are you ready to receive that gift God has prepared for you although you do not know what it is?

As you prepare, do not ignore this important rule of thumb.

You can choose what suits you best from these three options.

Pray and fast with suffering

Both Moses and Jesus suffered to accomplish God’s mission because they denied themselves the luxury of eating at the body’s demand.

At one point in the three-year journey of Jesus’ teachings, He reiterated that some demons can only leave through prayer and fasting.

Sometimes you may not know what exactly is cooking inside you yet you experience one challenge after the other. Problems are somehow permanent. Such a case requires you to commit yourself to suffer in order to attain freedom.

It involves reorganizing your meals to accommodate the fasting period you have chosen per day. We all love food and hunger pangs may become worse than ever before but you have to realize it’s a temptation to break your fast so that you lose the target.

Refrain from a bad habit

Addiction kills your relationship with God. It is not just about addiction to alcohol, drugs or illicit sex. Some addictions easily go unnoticed and we tend to focus more on other people’s problems that appear bigger than ours.  

The love of gossip and lazing around are examples of addictions that seem mild but are equally dangerous.

You can pinpoint a habit that you find so difficult to detach yourself from and dedicate it to Jesus this Lenten season. Your goal should obviously be to freely walk out of it by the end of the forty days and never go back there.

Thank God this Lenten season

Some years are smooth running and others come with unexpected challenges. Prayer and fasting have great rewards; those who practice this can attest to it.

It’s not unfortunate though if you cannot fast this year because God always has something for everybody and He will still give you what He plans to if you stick to your schedule. He knows you are sick, on medication or recovering from a delicate health condition that may take you some time to fully recover.

Rest assured that if you understand Him, He understands you too.

You can do exactly as these verses suggest.

Psalms 50:14; Let the giving of thanks be your sacrifice to God, and give the Almighty all that you promised.

Psalms 50:23; Giving thanks is the sacrifice that honors me, and I will surely save all who obey me.

God does not ask for what you cannot give, He doesn’t want to hurt you. You can also find more helpful tips to guide you here.


The option that God feels is the best for you this Lenten season is the one that holds the keys that will unlock God’s plan for you. Don’t favor yourself with the simplest option when your background check requires the heavier option. Take up the challenge and move those mountains that are sitting on your freedom.  

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The Secrets behind the Fourth Commandment of God – Honor your father and mother so that you may live a long life.

Back in the days when we were young and very good at mastery, we recited the Ten Commandments as laid down in Exodus 20 with resilience. It looked like our love for Christ was budding on our faces yet we did not quite figure out the comprehensive purpose of the Commandments. This Fourth Commandment directly touches on all persons as we are all grown children to our parents.   

The Fourth Commandment is the only one with a promise attached to it.

We understood obedience and fortunately our naivety resonated with the submission quite well. Along the way, as we grew up, many of us found ourselves moving from respect to disobedience. Flashing back, I realize the phrase “so that you may live a long life” was not well elaborated neither did we even notice it. Conversely, we can rephrase it to mean “so that you may not die prematurely.”

Why human life cycles defy the Fourth Commandment

I picture a recurrence of rebelliousness based on ignorance of its repercussions through generations. As we get busier trying to make ends meet, we tend to delegate our children’s Bible Study to schools and churches.

We forget that the indelible bond God created between a parent and children is a permanent responsibility to lead our kids to heaven. Children will grow up and leave those schools. They will also move from one parish to another as they relocate. In the process, they lose touch as they meet new people.

On the other hand, nothing can erase the parent-child bond no matter how far apart they live.

Some of the children end up disappointing us in the better part of their teenage and early adulthood. We may be partly to blame just like our parents may not escape the blame for our misbehavior.

Before I go into the secrets, let’s, first of all, understand the living a long life that God spoke about in the Fourth Commandment.

Premature death

The opposite of not living long is dying prematurely. Death occurs across all ages, some die as toddlers and others go beyond 100 years. Many Christians have literally understood premature death to mean dying before the 70 years stated in the Bible (Psalms 90:10). I do not dispute that but looking at it from another perspective, it could have a hidden meaning.

The death that leads to eternal life (necessitated by God) can occur when the Lord feels a person has accomplished the mission God intended for him on earth. Saint Joan of arc was one such example. You can read about her here.

On the other hand, the real premature death is instigated by the devil because of the exposure of the said person to sin thus being too vulnerable to the attacks of the evil one.

As much as our human nature doesn’t allow us to judge the spiritual state of a deceased person, let’s take an example of five people of ages 30, 40, 60, 80, and 100 years dying on the same day in different places across the globe. Assuming that they were all great people of God headed for eternal life, what reason would we give for their early deaths?

We leave it to God because He is the one who understands better.

However, among other reasons, they may have accomplished what God intended for them on earth which reverses their death from premature to full-term death!

Fourth Commandment rules

Our human nature doesn’t like rules and regulations whether in school or at work because they tie us down to discipline. We naturally dislike controls. 

Going back to God’s attachment to the Fourth Commandment, we are all children to our parents as the hierarchy transcends to the older folks and descends to our kids and grandchildren. So, God actually speaks to all of us in this Commandment but one thing I capture is that it is a permanent work in progress.

Children pick a character from parents. 

Parents are at the center-stage of this whole activity. Since everyone wants to live a long life, I collected some points to help instill these values in our children. We cannot keep telling kids God loves them without demonstrating that without them loving Him back, they are bound to lose!

Sirach 3: 1-16 disintegrates the Fourth Commandment caution into bits of information that if we subscribe to, we cannot miss to qualify for the promised long life. Without further ado, let me explain the teachings as they appear in the Bible.

The Lord has given fathers authority over their children and given children the obligation to obey their mothers.

Considering that God said a man and a woman will both leave their parents to begin their family, this theme suggests that the authority also applies when the kids are still dependent on their parents.

Since whoever is reading this article is not a child, it takes you back a few steps to help you figure out at what point you might have gone against the Lord’s Word and failed to repent.

Remember even in the law of the land, if you fail to appear in court for a case, a warrant of arrest is issued and once you get caught, the charges increase.

Therefore, disobeying a parent and declining to repent are two mistakes.

Begin by making up with the parent. You will understand why as you read on.

If you respect your father, you can make up for your sins and if you honor your mother you are earning great wealth.

What does God really mean when He tells us this? The Lord may decline to answer your prayers or to forgive your sins if you have no respect and honor for your parents as the Fourth Commandment instructs.

As a result, you will not earn great wealth. Wealth in a bigger picture includes good health and living a comfortable life.

Going against this statement can sink you into poverty no matter how much you pray.

If you respect your father, one day your own children will make you happy; the Lord will hear your prayers.

I said earlier on that rebelliousness replicates in consequent generations.

It will not be long before you also shed the tears your parents shed because of your ill behavior towards them. Your children may treat you badly not because they know you left your parents to suffer, but because you never garnered enough points to warrant their good treatment.

Every employee has a file in the human resources department. The employer files any documents concerning your conduct at work in that file. At the end of the year, the documents speak for you.

Your annual appraisal can, therefore, give you a salary boost and a bonus. Likewise, you may get one or none of the above because your file judged you.

The Lord also maintains His own type of a file for each of us. The clutter on the Fourth Commandment page is heavy enough to soak the other Commandments pages in the mud.

If you obey the Lord by honoring your father and making your mother happy, you will live a long life.

When you put a smile on your parent’s faces, you’re actually doing the same on the Lord’s face. Your parents are the bridge you cannot afford to ignore if you want to reach out to God on the other side of the river. Otherwise, you will slip into the river and drown because you have not put your parents in the mood to grab and save you.

Obey your parents as if you were their slave.

What this means is that even if your parents are on the wrong, try to solve the problem with utmost respect so that you get to a consensus without making them angry.

“Slave” is the keyword here. If you’re lucky to have at least one employee or more, you know what that means. If the disagreement is too heavy on you, you’d rather keep quiet and let it pass. That is what an employee does to enable him to keep putting food on his table through his earnings from his employer.

Honor your father in everything you do and say, so that you may receive his blessing.

Your words and deeds whether in the presence or absence of your father ought to give him a name worth respecting. This is because there is power in spoken words.

If your father keeps saying my son just drinks like a fool, you are likely to gradually move from worse to worst.

When your parents appreciate your behavior and support, their lips will be full of praises and that is powerful enough to trickle down God’s blessings upon you.

When parents give their blessing, they give strength to their children’s homes, but when they curse their children, they destroy the very foundations.

You surely have a home and your greatest desire in that home is a steadfast family full of peace. As much as your parents may be living miles away, whatever they think or say about you contributes to the stability of your home.

Parents are in fact some small gods that we have to cautiously relate with without bruising them.

Never seek honor for yourself at your father’s expense; it is not to your credit if he is dishonored.

“At your father’s expense.” Don’t leave your father crying foul because of your mistake.

You honestly can’t afford to divert your father’s hard-earned money to use on something you hadn’t agreed on and probably doesn’t benefit you or him! Your father will definitely come to know the reality and even without him saying a word, his hidden tears puncture your life.

“It is not to your credit.” In the long-run, you will lose simply because of a blunder you could avoid.

Your own honor comes from the respect that you show to your father, if children do not honor their mothers, it is their own disgrace.

Even the most arrogant or brutal personality expects to be respected. That is the irony of life. But God tells us here that you only deserve that demand if you respect your parents.

Surprisingly, the people you deal with may not even know the relationship between you and your parents.

The truth is, the moment you neglect God’s order to honor your parents, you invite the evil spirit to take control. It then manifests in the folks you expect honor from.

Sadly, you may not relate it to the relationship with your parents if you do not crave to understand the Word of God.

My son, take care of your father when he grows old; give him no cause for worry as long as he lives.

If your parents ever die before you, they should go smiling at all the good things you ever did for them. For instance, if they happen to live for long and get weary, their energy levels have to go down.

Don’t let your parents strain doing their house chores. Employ someone or live with your parents so that you can closely monitor their lives and health. Their peace of mind is a huge chunk of blessing in waiting for you.

NB: This is just but an example, there is more to it.

Be sympathetic even if his mind fails him; don’t look down on him just because you are strong and healthy.

You can never exchange your parents for others and if they die, there is no replacement. In whichever state they are, continue to love them and support them.

A failed mind can make the affected person distraught. God is telling you that since you are sane, it’s your responsibility to bend low and take all the insults that may come with your parents’ condition. In one word, persevere.

The Lord will not forget the kindness you show to your father; it will help you to make up for your sins.

No matter how much you have lived in sin, God will never forget the care you gave your parents. The moment you go back to God with a changed mind, ready to discard the sin from your life, it will take him lesser time to absolve you from your sins if you obeyed His Fourth Commandment.

In the real sense, you were stocking accolades. 

When you are in trouble, the Lord will remember your kindness and will help you; your sins will melt away like frost in warm sunshine.

I hope by now you realize that you cannot detach yourself from your parents whether they are still alive or not.

God looks back to your relationship with your parents any time you cry out to Him. If your parents are genuinely unhappy with you, I wonder how God will handle your prayers but I guess this is one of the reasons some people claim they have prayed for years but don’t experience changes.

Go back to your parents and sincerely make up with them if you recognize some blame in you. This is not a simple phone affair,  facial contact is paramount. Let them know that the one and the only reason that has made you travel all the way is to seek their forgiveness.

Those who abandon their parents or give them cause for anger may as well be cursing the Lord; they are already under the Lord’s curse.

In simple English; if you are not with your parents, you are not with the Lord.

You are the mountain that is sitting right between you and God and since you cannot roll yourself away to reach out to the Lord, you remain static.  



Isaiah 22:22; I will give Him complete authority under the King, the descendant of David. He will have the keys of office; what He opens, no one will shut, and what He shuts, no one will open.

One clarification I have heard often is that once Jesus shuts off the devil from your life, no one can ever have the audacity to open that loophole again. I am in total agreement with this explanation and I like the way people give a loud Amen to it. Jesus has the keys that open the gates to all the heavenly promises.

Do you realize that disobedience of the Fourth Commandment suggests you have shown the Lord your back? How would He communicate with someone who isn’t looking at Him?

Take note of the word “complete” in the verse (Isaiah 22:22).. Let me simply say that without Jesus you are caged in a cell.

If your actions necessitate a curse, even if it is unspoken, nobody can reverse it except Jesus. Remember to reach Jesus, you have to go through your parents. Parents give way first and then Jesus rubberstamps.

The Fourth Commandment as explained by the writer of the scripture in Sirach affirms that parents hold the keys of the heavenly gates here on earth. They have the keys of office; what they shut, no one will open and what they open, no one will shut. No matter how much you may seek counsel from peers or friends, this is beyond any human being. Care to open a friend’s inner eyes by sharing this article.

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Prosperity as a Dream versus the Reality

Prosperity is the talk of everyone irrespective of age. Some are too young to comprehend what they are talking about but in the end, the message is quite clear. My ten-year-old son tells me he will drive a Subaru when he grows up.

But does he know that he’s got to work extremely hard to afford such a car? Probably not; he goes to school, performs well and that’s just it for now. That is exactly what I was until I got to an age where prosperity began to trouble me.


My salary could not allow me to live the life I wanted; and like every other person, it’s never enough! And that is just how God created us! Quick money gimmicks crossed my mind. I heard a lot of stories from friends, especially as a young adult. The youth are going through the same today; it’s like a stage of life that nobody can escape.


More often than not, friends approached me with stories like there is gold mining to the west; you can act as a middleman linking the miner and the final buyer as you make your cut. It sounded so appealing and fixed me into some sleepless nights imagining how I would get in touch with the miner and the buyer. Well, I was just building castles in the air.

Multi-level marketing

Then came the multilevel marketing of products; I joined in a rush but got disappointed along the way and stopped. I was dealing with health products, convincing desperate people that they would get complete healing from terminal illnesses like arthritis and asthma.

I felt a cheat when after about five months; most of my clients complained there was no difference yet the supplements were too expensive. I stopped and started looking around for the next catch. Maybe I joined the wrong company!

 I lost quite some amount in this, but I kept nodding my head as I pondered the next move. For me it had to happen, I just had to get rich; that was my motto.

Online jobs promising prosperity

Finally, the internet landed in my country. It was a hot cake; I tried a lot of things online, but I got conned big time. All these happened in a span of about ten years, and my desire for prosperity did not get fulfilled! The best choice I had was to slap that hype on the face and begin all over again.

I sat back and realized I had to rediscover myself; I had to slow down, rethink and develop a strategy. As you know, prosperity for a layman is the economic ability. 

Something was lacking in my life all these years. I had abandoned God, thought it was a waste of valuable time to pray; little did I know I was missing it. I continued working but put aside any other prosperity thoughts and began to look for God.

You must be asking yourself where? In church; in the Bible; through personal prayer and prayer groups, just to mention a few.  

I can attest that it is not easy being in a comeback situation to God. You are at the center; God on your right and the devil on your left; both pulling you so whoever wins carries the day. 

Slow but sure wins the race

I learned quite a lot; became much more patient and began to steadily began to prosper. I got to realize we cannot detach our general life and God. He has to play His part, and that can only occur if He is invited to do so. Since then, I have steadily risen the ranks.

Jesus tells us “man shall not live by bread alone,” so without the existence of God in your life, some areas of your life could be lifeless. This article clearly brings out prosperity from a Christian point of view

 I am not a millionaire, but God floated many good ideas; I adapted some, and the progress is evident day in day out. The wasted ten years were full of stagnation and trying to imitate what my peers were succeeding in, without much success. God has something for everyone. Whatever works for me may not work for you.

The truth about prosperity

I am reminded that true prosperity is a gift from God irrespective of one’s level of education. Jesus tells us we can only get what we want from God if we ask for it through Him. Since everything belongs to God, we have to involve Him in our daily lives not only to prosper but also to free ourselves from the snares of this world.

Otherwise, struggles may pitch a tent in our lives. His words “I am the truth and the light; anyone who believes in me shall get saved.” 

What is your understanding of prosperity?  To what extent have you gone to succeed in life?

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A jealous God – the secret underneath the gifts of the Holy Spirit

It is not any other god but the same God we serve that referred to Himself as a jealous God. Looking at the Bible references where He uttered these words, the message rotated around idol worship. He simply made it clear that He has no equal; He is supreme.

Some of the weighty scriptures that we cannot afford to ignore are:-

Exodus 20:5; You shall not bow down before them or worship them. For I the Lord your God am a jealous God, inflicting punishment for their fathers’ wickedness on the children of those who hate me, down to the third and fourth generation.

Deuteronomy 6:14-15; You shall not follow other gods such as those of the surrounding nations, lest the wrath of the Lord, your God, flare up against you and He destroys you from the face of the land; for the LORD your God who is in your midst is a jealous God.

In those days, idolatry was composed majorly of worshiping things they could physically see. They owed allegiance to them as their gods. Worshipping false gods is a wide topic that cannot be covered in an article. For that reason, I will concentrate on the relationship between God’s jealousy and the gifts of the Holy Spirit, in this article. Firstly, let me break down jealousy into smaller segments to help bring out the affiliation between the jealous God and the gifts of the Holy Spirit clearly.

God’s jealousy in comparison to human jealousy

A practical reminder of the pain Jesus experienced. It justifies His reference to Himself as a jealous God.
A practical reminder of the pain Jesus experienced. It justifies His reference to Himself as a jealous God

In worldly terms, jealousy suggests having feelings of hatred towards someone whose achievements you envy. God, on the other hand, referred to the fury we inflict in Him when we worship other gods. It’s like not recognizing that He is the ruler of the entire universe and His opinion matters the most.

Secondly, we can also compare God’s jealousy to a similar scenario in the case of human beings. A manager in a corporate organization feels the juniors are answerable to him and ought to put him in the know of everything work matters. Parents have the same feelings towards their children. If the juniors do things contrary to expectations, feelings of disrespect will obviously present in the seniors.

Thirdly, when you strike a deal with your landlord and you go against the lease agreement, he is likely to take you to court. The reason being, you understood the content of the lease before you appended your signature. The mentioning of the court suggests that the landlord is obviously annoyed. If he took you in as a tenant without any proper agreement, he will have no choice but to let you go. It is at this point that we can understand how furious God can get. Maybe we can look at it from a home point of view.  

Jesus’ home

We all have homes or houses where we live. There are visitors who don’t gain entry even at the gate. You finalize your talks outside the gate and the major reason being you do not know them at all.

Then there are those who gain entry into the compound. You have a glimpse of who exactly they are but you cannot trust them into your house!

Next, are those who enter the sitting room and the only other room they are free to use is the washroom. You are not yet so attached to one another as there is a stopper.

Lastly, you mingle with others as though you are young children growing up together. I take the example of children because they are blameless and innocent. These visitors enter into rooms in your house as though it is their home and you do not mind.

Looking at it from the human point of view, you realize that a slight disagreement with the very close visitor who knows you in and out pains the most. Jesus feels the same when we have climbed the ladder of attaining the gifts of the Holy Spirit and then entertain the fluff that brings our achievement down. He cannot help it but express His jealous God attribute.

The jealous God and the gifts of the Holy Spirit

There are seven gifts of the Holy Spirit. They are; wisdom, understanding, counsel, fortitude, knowledge, piety, and fear of the Lord. For anyone to get to a point where these gifts are part and parcel of his life, I can say without a doubt that he is spiritually mature. You can read this exhaustive article to learn more about the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit.

A point to note is that the devil is running after spiritually mature people. He has nothing to do with his easy catches because getting them is a walkover.

Many are the times we attain this level of spiritual maturity then begin to dwindle into thin air after some time. Unfortunately, most people never notice the downward trend until it is late. That is where God begins to express his anger.

When the jealous God gets angry

If I would put words in His mouth, I imagine He would say, “Have you not known me in and out? Why have you chosen to desert me?” It feels extremely painful. God does not feel as much hurt when someone who is not yet so close to Him misbehaves; for instance, the one He addresses outside the house, within the compound.

Even in our cases as human beings, if your son and your brother lose their jobs at the same time, you’ll give your son first priority in job hunting for them. Your sons’ case touches you more than your brothers’ case because of the closeness. He is actually in your kitchen cabinet. God feels the pain too when a member of His kitchen cabinet slips off the kitchen.

If you look at the opposite of these seven gifts of the Holy Spirit, I bet you wouldn’t want to have a second glance.

Five ways to retain the gifts of the Holy Spirit

Our jealous God does not work by himself. He works with each of us independently because He has also apportioned ability in different quantities. You have to be part of this retention; you must do something every day of your life and as much as you eat.

Tithe your prayer time

Prayer and action go hand in hand. They are like a husband and wife in love. One cannot do without the other. A day has 1440 minutes. If you dedicate144 minutes to meet God each day in prayer you will never lose Him.

Religiously adhere to your prayer life

Distractions are part of life. Heeding to those interruptions for no proper reason is one of the devils’ secret ways of making sure you lose the gifts of the Holy Spirit. Scrutinize what interferes with your prayer life and make a wise decision before it is too late.

Pluck off the eye that causes you to sin

You cannot be so naïve to continue keeping the same friend who has interfered with your prayer life several times for no apparent reason. If you were taking him to hospital, well and good. But if you were just going shopping, it’s not worth it. You can’t afford to lose God for him.

Avoid controversy

Arguments always end up messy. Whether you are right or wrong, act like a fool. It is better someone considers you weak as God rejoices, than look powerful as God cries foul.

Allow the jealous God to ring in your mind

When you imagine how jealous God is and the cost of ignoring that jealousy, you will always be on toes, putting God first in your life. Discipline becomes your lifestyle.

The Lord has the final say

Not everyone enjoys housing the gifts of the Holy Spirit. So God has a reason as to why He chose you among many. If there is anything you should avoid like the plague, it is to provoke God.

Ignorance has no defense in court. Do you notice it also has no defense in the spiritual realm? The jealous God gets to a point where He cannot tolerate answers like “I did not know it could turn out that way.” Once you are above average in the spiritual realm, never entertain anything that will drop you down to average because it will eventually take you to below average.  

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The mystical pain behind my wedding

Sometimes the wonders of life get me by surprise and one of such moments is my wedding. A month never ended before a priest mentioned the importance of solemnizing a marriage in church. For some reason which I did not understand then, the message went out as soon as it got into my ears. A wedding was not my priority. I suppose I just had not opened the entry door to my soul wide enough for Jesus to get in!

The lit-up Sunday

On one Sunday, I had an opportunity to listen to a lady narrate her adoration experience. I seemed to be unusually more attentive on that day. She spoke with a lot of emotion, and I thought; why not give it a try?

Unfortunately, my all-over sudden quest was brought down as soon as my desire stepped in. The presiding priest affirmed that only those who receive the Holy Eucharist are allowed to adore the Eucharistic Lord!

I got tongue-tied, “where do I start from,” I thought to myself? Giving up has never been part of my life, so I pursued after the mass, and there I was; allowed to attend adoration!

How retreats saved me

Within a few days, our parish hosted an inner healing retreat. I got bruised a second time when the teachings seemed to divide the attendees into two groups. Those who receive the Holy Communion can confess their sins, whereas those who do not should write them on a piece of paper and put them in the allocated container.

Why cheat!

I considered myself the greatest sinner! After benefitting so much from one retreat after the other, I thought of sharing the benefits with you too. You can find the details in this link.

I cried on and off, throughout the retreat; not because of how much I got hurt but because of how the urgency of a wedding hit me. Let me admit that the retreat uncorked my brain. When I was over and done with the retreat, I started preparing for my wedding!

My problem was more of connecting with Christ than the glamour almost everyone focuses on! We simply pulled resources and budgeted with what we had. The invitation was via phone. We picked a few committee members whose work was to help us plan for the wedding, and the day eventually came.

It has been years, but every day of my life, I thank God because the wedding is the best gift we ever gave to ourselves. A good thing is better shared so that those in need can benefit from it and that is why I write my story so that it can find and solve as many cases as possible.

I, however, admit that challenges differ from one person to another and have come up with a few common obstacles to many people’s wedding desires. As I explain, I will concentrate on what resonates with my case. 

Four obstacles to wedding desires

  • Parents may insist on full dowry payment before they okay their daughter’s wedding. Let me not go deeper into this because it involves a third party (parents). Nevertheless, you’re the only one who can know how to deal with the situation since they all differ from culture to culture, spiritual maturity notwithstanding.
  • Self-denial. Wanting to be what you are not can keep you in a come-we-stay marriage for years. One thing I believe is that you can spend as much money as you have or as little as you can afford to wed. Remember you can only scratch your back up to a certain point and the wedding is all about your relationship with God and not what your relatives, friends, neighbors or colleagues think about it.
  • Your partner may be least interested in the wedding, thus requiring greater wisdom to deal with the situation.   
  • Ignorance of the importance of a wedding.

To be honest, I was a bit ignorant; I did not give a wedding the importance it deserved. When I saw the light, I knew buying time would kill the morale and take me back to that comfort zone I wanted to leave. Whatever people thought was not my problem but rather my relationship with Christ.

As I give a snippet of my story, I encourage couples who have not yet recognized the secrets behind a church wedding to dig deeper and get to know what they are missing. My wedding was one of the simplest, but the aftermath effect is a long, interesting story for another day.

Financial implications

Many are the times we get lost in perceiving a wedding to be one of the most costly events. I have met several couples who tag their prospective weddings to a specific cash figure. My case was unique. I was all over sudden desperate to receive the Holy Eucharist, and nothing was going to stop me from getting there as you can tell from the expenditure as listed!

There were no wedding cards!

No ladies and gents in the lineup; just the four of us; we and our best couple!

A few witnesses involved!

No white or cream dress!

Caterers did not have an opportunity to make money!

No hired reception venue!

We did not need to hire tents and chairs!

No hired entertainment band!

A sizable cake enough for the visitors was good enough; no seven-tier cake!

No debts!

Cheap is not a sin

My dress cost me five thousand Kenya shillings; shoes seven hundred Kenya shillings and veil Kenya shillings five hundred, to mention a few! If you want a cheap but fabulous wedding, find more tips here.

If only I had a video trail to attach! From the video, you would realize it just looks like one of those big weddings apart from the not-white dress, which is conspicuous! However, friends and relatives will never fail to unleash surprises.

By the way, most people who have seen my wedding photos ask one question. Why did you decide to wear a normal dress? My answer is always simple; we need to have a proper appointment for you to understand my choice because it’s not just a quick answer.


The sacredness of a marriage is sealed on the wedding day.
My small wedding with lots of unexpected gifts

One of our friends wouldn’t imagine a wedding without flowers. She took it upon herself to incur the costs. The cars, hotel, and the church had quite some decorations courtesy of her contribution.

Another friend wondered how the event would look like without entertainment. He veered in with entertainers who made the occasion more interesting.

You must be wondering if people had something to eat, considering we had no caterers. We booked space and lunch for the small expected number in a hotel. To seal the deal, the cash presents were good enough to pay the bill!

Besides, God will always send His people to give support where He sees a loophole for as long as it is all for His glory. He is the same God who converted water to wine at the wedding in Cana!

My final thoughts

Someone out there is in the situation I was in when I badly needed to receive the Holy Communion. I would say give your desire to wed a different approach and see what happens. Minimize your demands! Leave the world alone and focus on God! Without a doubt, slanderers must talk irrespective of whether the wedding is small or big! It has not deterred us from getting to where we are today; it, in fact, hastened the process.

God says; come the way you are, so, go down the aisle the way you are! You may not see the need until you are in a situation similar to what the Israelites experienced in Egypt. The Egyptians in your case are all the forces that are trying to make sure you don’t marry in the church; rest assured they exist even if you cannot identify them. Why wait? A wedding is like Moses striking the red sea for the Israelites (you) to get to the Promised Land.

A copy of this book will undoubtedly go a long way in enlightening you on marriage and wedding matters that seal the deal as the saying “till death do us part” comes true. 

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Christian Religious Leaders on trial – the tales of the life of a priest

Christian religious leaders are servants of God tasked with the responsibility of guiding the flock. We cannot talk about leadership without mentioning their lives. The two have to go hand in hand. No life; no leadership!

Separating their lives and responsibilities is like talking about the Holy Spirit without pointing out sin! The same temple (our souls) that ought to house the Holy Spirit sometimes harbors sin instead!

I know you are not here to find out how to help someone else. It was all for your good.

But did you know that the answer to your problem may lie underneath doing a simple thing for someone else?

Burdening yourself with someone else’s load stores up treasures for you. It’s just a matter of time and you will be able to harvest the rewards. Look at this verse!

Jeremiah 29:7 – Work for the good of cities where I have made you prisoners. Pray to me on their behalf because if they are prosperous, you will be prosperous too.

Religious leaders and social life

The general perception is that religious leaders are exempted from sin; which is not the case! They live in the same world; use the same vehicles; visit the same malls and interact with fellow human beings at different levels of their duties!

They are not in some world of their own presumably between earth and heaven!

As Satan hovers around, religious leaders are bound to experience the same challenges as the rest of us! The devil tries his tricks on them too only that their spiritual maturity helps guard them more than most of us!

I’m not trying to justify any mistake made by church leaders. But when we make a fuss out of our own understanding of any issue at hand, we lose something.  My point is; let us not hype too much when we hear a religious leader has stumbled. As Christians, we have a job towards the stability of our leaders.

If you occasionally trip, what makes you think the religious leaders are saints?

Remember slipping doesn’t only mean physically engaging in an inappropriate activity; it could just be a spoken word! I have never understood why a Christian would opt to tear a church minister into pieces because of a mistake! You will agree with me that it is a common phenomenon.

The truth about spiritual leaders

They understand God more than we think. While we are busy spreading a rumor about a priest, God heartily accepted his repentance. The priest may be so gifted to the extent that none of his mistakes goes unnoticed. He confesses as soon as he commits the offense!

Do you know what that does to him?

It keeps the Holy Spirit and the man of God bumper to bumper. His spiritual life is under lock and key. He seals any loopholes before the devil discovers them.

A priest presiding over mass.

Isn’t he smart!

It’s unfortunate that we may not realize how such defamatory statements affect our lives. The more we malign the religious leaders, the sweeter it becomes and the wider the gap between God and us.

Is it not a sin to defame their character irrespective of whether they are right or wrong?

Imagine what we do to that person who is struggling to grow his faith and admires that particular minister as his mentor! We break him into pieces and push him away from the church.

Would we then sit back and expect God to happily answer our prayers?

That is food for thought.

Refer to these scriptures

We may unknowingly suffer the consequences of mistakes we could have easily avoided. Here are some Bible references concerning the character assassination of religious leaders. Sometimes I like to call the Bible a power bank because it answers purely every question about our relationship with religious leaders.

Religious leaders power bank
Religious leaders power bank

Numbers 12:9-16: Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses. A dreaded skin disease immediately sprouted on Miriam’s body. Aaron began to plead with Moses on her behalf but she had to face the wrath. 

Numbers 12:7-8 sends chills to my body. It says; It is different when I speak with my servant Moses; I have put him in charge of all my people Israel. So I speak to him face to face, clearly and not in riddles; he has even seen my form! How dare you speak against my servant Moses?

Numbers 21:5-9: When Israelites spoke against God and Moses, the Lord sent poisonous snakes. Many Israelites died out of the snake bites. Moses pleaded for the Israelites and God came to their rescue. Do you notice it is the same Moses they spoke ill about interceding for them!

2 Kings 2:23-24: Two she-bears tore forty-two of the boys who mocked Elisha to pieces. Elisha was a prophet through whom God performed one of the greatest miracles of the time. He made impure water pure and since then, there were no more calamities associated with that water. (2 Kings 20-22).

Cautionary Scriptures

1 Chronicles 16:22 – Don’t harm my chosen servants; do not touch my prophets. This is basically a warning repeated two times in the Bible with exactly the same words as you can see below.

Psalms 105:15: Don’t harm my chosen servants; do not touch my prophets.

David, on the other hand, said; “the Lord forbid that I should try to harm the one whom the Lord has made a king!” (1 Samuel 26:11). He was referring to Saul.

I suppose we should be as careful as David. What we say about our priests should never destroy any single soul including our own. David’s obedience to God is one to reckon considering he was one of God’s favorites.

The unseen reality of religious leaders lives

It’s hard to be a leader because we often expect too much from leaders. We queue at their offices with our baggage seeking solutions to our problems. Protocol demands that they give service irrespective of whether something may be amiss or not.

You and I can share our challenges unlike them! The same concept of a parent and child applies. No matter what we may be experiencing, we have to be strong for our kids.

Facts about church leaders

The more we expand our network, the more enemies we make. A church minister is a public figure with a large network. He may know a few people but the fact that he is known to many certainly exposes him to the evil one. Wickedness tries its best to reach out to the intended person and only gives up if it finds a barrier.

How lovely would it be to know our prayers are included in that barrier? Not forgetting that we also get a piece of the cake!

Furthermore, religious leaders are human and they are therefore vulnerable to temptations. As we cry out to God for our sick, let’s keep in mind that spiritual disability is the worst of illnesses.

It goes without saying that if a leader is spiritually sick; his followers are likely to become victims too.

What would the world be like with crippled church leadership?

On a serious note, religious leaders need our prayers.

I have saturated your mind with tons of verses that condemn the demonization of religious leaders. Whether it is new to you or it’s a reminder, too much inspiration without correction is like trying to fill a broken bucket with water. 

It calls for religious life on our part to be able to understand how exactly we should handle religious leaders. Most or if not all of my books are guidelines on this sensitive matter. You can check them out here.